Sometimes it seems like the wedding ceremony is glossed over in the wedding preparations. But the wedding ceremony is the most important part. As our photography called it "the good stuff".
I think going to weddings should be required of all married people. Go to as many weddings as you can. Crash the ceremonies if you have to. When we were first married, we would go to weddings and remember our own. The anticipation. Walking down the aisle... The reception afterwards.
Yesterday was different. We have been married for almost 9 years now. It seemed cliché at the time when everyone would talking about "the good times and the bad times". When you are first married, it is the good times. You can't imagine the "bad times". We have been married long enough to have some bumps in the road... little ones and big ones. I couldn't have imagined at the time the journey we would go through and are still on. But even though the most difficult times, I know that I am married to the right person and that the tough times are times that you get through - they aren't about the person you married.
A wise women once said that when she was going through some tough times with her husband she would watch her wedding video. Not to remember the love of that moment and the vows she said to her husband but to remember the vows she said to God. The covenant she made was not only to her husband but also to God.
As we are going through "the tough times", I needed to see a wedding. I needed to see that hope and to renew our vows with each other. I don't think watching our wedding video would have had the impact of the vows that being in the middle of the wedding had for me. I loved explaining all the traditions to Laci, especially the unity candle. I love the unity candle and how it represents her family, his family and their new family newly created. I keep my unity candle on my kitchen sink. I can't think of a better place to keep it than right in the most used place in my house. It is burned way down. My mom offered to replace it with a new one. I said no. That burned down unity candle was at our wedding and is a daily reminder of our wedding and our vows, just like our rings.
I wasn't sure why we were invited to the wedding. We hadn't seen her in several years. I would like to think I had bigger impact on her than I thought when she was a teenager. But I really think that we were invited to that wedding because God knew that I needed to be at a wedding this summer. He knew that I needed to experience that all again.
Charlie pointed out the best line the pastor said at the wedding yesterday.... "Make sure that today is the day you love each other least." I think that says it all.