I was laying awake the other night at 3:00 a.m. I do my best (and worst) thinking in the middle of the night. I was working on my list of all the horrible, annoying habits I have. We always get so down on ourselves and beat up ourselves. I thought "I will just add this to Charlie's list of why I am a horrible, annoying person. Everyone has that list for their spouse, right?" Then I thought about "the list" I have for Charlie, all of his annoying, horrible habits. The list is completely blank. Not a thing on it. Then I thought "That is what marriage is, right? No list. We don't keep score. We don't have a list." It was a nice thought and a nice reminder.
Of course, in the light of day, I can think of plenty silly little things for "a list": doesn't make the bed, forgets to turn the closet light off, doesn't do the dishes immediately. But those things really aren't important. I am thankful every day for Charlie and our marriage.