Last week, Laci came off the school bus one day in tears. I didn't know what was wrong. She walked home without saying a word, walked into the house and curled up in a ball on the couch under a blanket. I have never seen her do that before. I kept asking her what was wrong and she kept saying that she didn't want to talk about it and just wanted to sit quietly for a minute. I suddenly realized that in this next phase of her life, this scene may happen a lot. I gave her a hug and let her be. A few minutes later, she told me what was wrong. Three things. 1. Abby brought stickers in to share and she didn't get one. 2. Isaiah (her one friend from daycare) won't talk to her 3. her flower bracelet that she made in recess broke. A little while later, she bounced back to her regular self and told me that those three things didn't bother her and she was fine. I decided to let it go. I'm sure it will come up again. School is easy for her. The social part of school is a bit tougher.
A few days later, Laci was lamenting to Charlie again about Isaiah not talking to her. He explained again that sometimes boys just want to be friends with boys and he is just trying to make new friends too just like her. This change in friends has been tough on her. She went from a place that was like home to her and she knew everyone and everyone knew her to a place where no one knows her. The one person she does know won't even talk to her. She's struggling a little bit as all kindergartners too. And their mothers can't help them with this one. This isn't the last time she will struggle and she will get through it. But it is hard to see her struggling and upset.
Her birthday is in a few weeks and since we don't know any of her new friends, I thought it might be better to invite some of her old familiar friends that she hasn't seen in awhile. I know we will have many days where she needs to snuggle on the couch quietly under a blanket as she figures all of this growing up stuff out. On the positive side, Isaiah started talking to her again and she has mentioned that she is starting to make friends. She's finding her way.